This module is about have a full-blown appreciation and love for our physicality. It involves feeling great about every aspect of you, and again, knowing how to talk to yourself when you feel like you are lacking in any way. It is also about engaging with your body in joyful, nurturing, and pleasurable ways. Super-fun challenges too.

Challenge One

To start with, do a full body scan a take note of any areas of tension, injury, lack of vitality and any areas you don’t feel so great about for whatever reason. You can close your eyes and begin reflecting on your body, focusing on your scalp, hair, cranium and down to your feet, toes, toenails, heels, etc. Breathe love and healing energy into every part as you reflect on it. You can also just look at yourself or a picture of the human body and systematically go through every part and note where you could take better care of yourself, including where you might need scans, more stretching, moisture, etc. As you scan, if you are a woman, it may remind you that you need to book in your PAP test, or maybe you are wondering if your eyesight is perfect and whether to see an optometrist or at least commit to less screen-time or blue-light-filtering glasses.

Schedule in what needs doing and keep any notes handy so that you can use them later this week.

Knowing what makes you work and knowing any of your ailments, design a health and exercise plan that works for you. You can make this consulting with a professional, or alone, initially using research and some instincts around what you need and what you should avoid. Most people already know what would get them to a healthier state, even without having a doctor or trainer tell them. Even elite athletes know when they need more rest, more stretching, more focus on their weaker side, etc. The everyday person like me, may know that a more consistent water intake would sort out some of the dry skin and that more fibre would help with constipation, and so on. No formal health qualifications here! Boosting self-esteem means loving our bodies in the more archaic sense of the word- to show it love through how we treat it. Using the ‘how you work best’ guidelines from Module One, make a plan you can stick to or at least feel good about when you design it. If it’s already bumming you out, then tweaks are needed. Give yourself a hundred reasons to be healthy and have these reasons somewhere you can see it. Create lock-in points where you do it with friends or a trainer if that helps you commit. Make it easy to begin and sustain (with tweaking over time, of course).

Challenge Two

The next challenge addresses those body parts we don’t always feel great about. For you it might be squishy bits or those around an injury area or a place that reminds you of a past pain-point, emotional or physical. With clean hands, with or without moisturiser or lubricant, massage your own body, creating small circles or gentle pinches in a way that feels nice and is the perfect pressure. Linger on those areas that make you feel self-conscious or the places that need some positive circulation. Remember to listen to your body and to move to another area if you experience pain. Whilst self-healing can take place, this is more about physically committing to self-love and creating pleasurable sensations in areas we wouldn’t always touch with such positive intention.  To amp up the experience, use kind words of gratitude as you touch each body part. ‘I am grateful for my shoulders and the movement they grant me’ or ‘Thank you belly button for your first role in connecting me to my mother’ or ‘These lips help me eat, speak and give loving kisses.’ We can be grateful for what we have and even for what may be absent, especially if it has taught us a new lesson or developed strengths in other areas. Tell me, what stood out in this experience?

Challenge Three

The last challenge of this week is to have an orgasm in a state of receiving. When we orgasm, there can be a sense of pushing out or a dispelling of energy, but now we want to become energised and focus on receiving goodness, abundance and joy as we orgasm. To do this, focus on breathing slowly and deeply more than holding your breath (which can be very normal). Focus on full-body pleasure, not just sensations at the point of stimulation. Whether alone or with a partner, see if you can create a whirling feeling on pleasure on the inside and in areas that may be numb or not in your usual awareness. For women, this could be around the walls of the vagina, not just on the G-spot point, or see if you can find a pleasant sensation on your nipples without having to touch them. To heighten this process, practise staying as close to orgasm as you can without actually orgasming. Being at about a 7-8 out of 10 for as long as possible is ideal. With relaxed and controlled breathing and continued visualisation of the pleasure, joy, abundance and goodness you are receiving, your orgasm should be long and energising, where you don’t just want to fall asleep (although you could), but where you could be more alive and engaged with the rest of your day.

Challenge Summary

♦ Do a full body scan a take note of any areas of tension, injury, lack of vitality and any areas you don’t feel so great about for whatever reason. Begin actioning any ailments that you may have been neglecting.

♦ Develop a health and exercise plan that is aligned with what you need and what you enjoy.

♦ Engage in self-massage, especially around any body parts you do not always love and appreciate.

♦ Have an orgasm in a state of receiving.

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