Why You Will Resent Your Coach
You will resent your coach.
Firstly, you don’t need your coach.
You are going places and have a plan for big things anyway.
You will step into your first session as a high-achiever with a track-record of success and people might think they ‘created you’.
They will use your lessons and your genius to help others. They might even quote you.
They won’t hold you accountable for the things you say you’re gonna do cos they don’t really care.
(Spoiler: They will hold you accountable to being the best version of yourself!)
They won’t say what you want to hear, only what you need.
Or they’ll ignore things cos they know it’s not the truth.
They will make offers you can’t refuse and make you spend money you never thought you had.
They will smugly say something to the effect of ‘interesting’ or ‘that’s how this works’ when you make that money back faster than ever.
They won’t bring up stuff from your last conversation, even when you just want a check in, because all they like to do is deal with what is real and what you think is impossible.
They will misunderstand you sometimes and it will be your fault for not speaking your truth.
You will seek some mystical, sexy, scientific wisdom, but the only things that stick are the most simple principles.
They’ll make you believe you have superpowers and then you’ll wonder why you ever needed a coach.
They’ll even tell you that you don’t need them.
But here is why you want them.
You were ready for real change and you were about to do it alone. Unsupported. As usual.
And you are sick of feeling alone.
There is nobody to talk to about what is real for you. People see you as busy, or really smart or really weird or too introverted or maybe too intense. Or your dreams are just ‘nice’ things and nobody really gets how overwhelming they can be- how things that in words sound so simple feel so hard. Nobody really gets you.
People talk you up and reassure you, saying things like ‘you’re amazing’, but the words vanish as soon as they arrive because they say it based on superficial things, like thinking you have ‘talent’. You don’t need fluffy compliments anymore. You need things to be practical. You need the truth, no matter how it feels to hear it.
Your life is dynamic, yet everything is connected and how you do one thing is how you do anything. Your coach knows this and therefore no topic is off limits- however seemingly insignificant, however deep.
You secretly want to be in an elite group of people who are inspired leaders, who inspire leaders.
You need to know spending and making money can be as easy as breathing.
You need the symbolic gesture that you put you first. That your dreams and desires are worth the time and energy and that someone else is invested in your success and joy.
You want someone to celebrate the wins.
With your overactive mind, you really do want things to be simple.
You know it has to happen because your superpowers come from doing what most people do not dare to do. Put everything on the line to be better and do better.
And you know it’s time to live from your genius.
You will never need a coach. When you get one, you may have mixed feelings. But these feelings come from the fact that some part of you truly believes that something different is possible.
And when you get a coach, you’ll be kinda mad at the absurdity that the most natural thing in the world, living, requires your attention.
And one day you might have to tell someone you have a coach and have them say ‘Oh ok’, passing it off like it’s nothing, even though to you it has been EVERYTHING!!!!
You’ll still smile on the inside, knowing what you know now.
It’s worth it.
I wrote this based on my own experiences and of those clients I have coached. If you want to work with me, see my very casual offering here which will tell you if we are a good fit, or contact me and ask me how we can work together. I will send you a video of me crying before my own first coaching session as a present.
Comment with other things that make you resent your coach. This is funny as hell!
Love Becky